Recently, a year-old man posted something stupid on Reddit. This is not breaking news—this happens likely thousands of times per day, but the post made it over to Twitter , and people went in. The issue at hand? The haircut is just a tangible thing that you are focusing on. Reddit has long been a sanctuary for people in sexless marriages. I'm realizing how much of his joy is missing in a sexless marriage[. The traditional read: heteronormative and sexist narrative is that men are always ready to have sex, while women are constantly faking headaches to avoid it. According to Pam Costa, M. Sex can start to become less frequent as couples encounter road bumps like depression, physical health concerns, the loss of loved ones, pregnancy, childbirth, and miscarriages, or as a result of mismatched desire levels.
Break Down the Problem
Physical intimacy is what makes a relationship more than just a platonic friendship. Some couples fall into a pattern or habit of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. While there is a "normal" drop off within the first few years of marriage, particularly if kids come into the picture, complete loss of this physical aspect of marriage often signals a marital problem that needs to be addressed.
Some words of wisdom from experienced sex therapists.
Sexless marriages , though rarely discussed openly, are more common than you might expect. So what exactly constitutes a sexless marriage? While a lack of sex may put a strain on many relationships , is it possible for some marriages to stay intact with little to no physical intimacy? We turned to sex experts to find out. For others, it is quite high, just like any other activity. Under certain circumstances, a sexless or low-sex relationship may be tenable or even fulfilling, including when A lack of sex may not be problematic for the marriage when both partners share similarly low levels of sexual desire. The same goes for couples who identify as asexual — in other words, people who do not experience sexual attraction and may or may not be interested in having sex. Sometimes, these changes are temporary; others may be lasting. The couple values other aspects of their life together more than they value their sex life.
Many couples fall into periods of sexlessness over the course of a marriage. And yet sexless marriages are still treated as a taboo subject. Over time, spouses may start feeling more like roommates than sexual partners. And it can become a cycle in which not having sex breeds more sexlessness and makes the thought of doing it more awkward or intimidating.